hmmm maybe a controversial opinion but tbh i dont rly vibe w “don’t hate, educate” like,,, most of the times we have to put in the emotional labour of spoon feeding basic information to a bigot who thinks it’s just some kinda debate and not actual human lives being impacted by the microaggressions, policies, structural oppression, hate crimes, etc inflicted upon us by the very people those bigots are a part of.

and when we don’t do the handholding-listening-to-their-side-of-the-story-nodding-thoughtfully-while-biting-our-tongue act to appease their sensibilities we’re “aggressive,” “too sensitive,” “rude,” “not able to start a conversation in good faith,” or anything else along those lines. we’re painted as the ones who are backwards, because “they only want to learn, why is this so hard for us? :((” but they don’t understand that we don’t owe them an education, we don’t owe them our civility, our time, our politeness.

making it about yourself and how hard it is to you, too, isnt the way to go into a conversation regarding ur privilege & bigotry but that is predominantly the type of conversation that occurs whenever “dont hate educate” is invoked.