forgiveness is key blah blah blah 🙄 i hold grudges all the time and i don’t think it’s necessarily bad for your mental health like everyone loves to say. i think there’s a line and that “holding a grudge” doesn’t automatically mean wasting energy+time and obsessing/stewing in negativity. i can hold a grudge but what that means to me is that i acknowledge what’s happened and i don’t forgive and i keep that apprehension + write that person off. it doesn’t mean i’m going to be rude to them or do something petty or stew in anger but i will move on without giving them a clean slate. they will always be approached w an air of distaste. that’s what grudges mean to me. not forgiving and not forgetting, but moving on and learning from your mistakes. i don’t think you need to forgive ppl to make peace w urself